Resources

Black Lives Matter:

• Systemic Racism Explained

• 97 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice

• There Is No Such Thing as a ‘White Ally’

• White fragility: what it is and why it's compounding racism

• I’m your black friend, but I won’t educate you about racism. That’s on you.

• My White Friend Asked Me on Facebook to Explain White Privilege. I Decided to Be Honest.

• Seeing White Fragility

• 11 Ways to Support Black Lives If You Can't Go to a Protest

• 10 TED classroom resources about race in America

Covid and Mental Health:

• The Rage of Watching Everyone I Know End Quarantine as Someone With Chronic Illness

When COVID-19 Blows Over, Please Remember People With Chronic Illnesses

Around Self-Care/Boundaries:

• Why We Abandon Ourselves and How to Stop

• 10 Reasons To Say No More Often + How To Do It With Grace

• The Self-Care Acronym You Need to Remember on Bad Mental Health Days

• 101 Self-Care Suggestions for When It All Feels Like Too Much

• 25 Things to Put in Your Self-Care Kit

• 8 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself

• How to Communicate Your Self-Care Needs to Your Partner

Around Narcolepsy/Chronic Illness:

• The Spoon Theory written by Christine Miserandino

• Handicap Parking and My Invisible Illness

• Narcolepsy: Fact Sheet

• Everything you need to know about cataplexy

• The Dilemma of Wanting to Have Fun but Knowing Your Body Will Pay for It

• What a ‘Great Day’ Means to a Person With Chronic Illness

• When the Hardest Part of Dealing With Chronic Illness Is Other People

• What to Know If You Feel Like You’re Coping With Chronic Illness Poorly Right Now

• When Your Appearance Is Unchanged by Your Changing Health

• Living with Pure O(CD)

Around Non-Monogamous Relationships:

• 8 Things to Consider in Polyamorous Dating Before Committing to Another Partner

• Be Brutally Polyamorous

• Poly.Land: Start Here

• What Old Relationship Energy Feels Like

Around BDSM/Kink:

• What is sub-drop?

• What Is Sexual Aftercare, and Why Is It So Important?

• Kinky Sex: 6 Science-Backed Benefits Of BDSM

• The Surprising Thing 'The Addams Family' Got Right

Everything else:

• Are You Being Gaslighted?

• From Codependent to Independent

• Compatibility and Chemistry in Relationships

• 'I Suck': How Guys Use Self-Deprecation Against You

• The Friend Zone Isn’t a Thing and Women Don’t Owe You Shit

• Women Aren’t Nags—We’re Just Fed Up

• Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the Burden

• How much pressure women are under every day

Recommended TED Talks:

• Why we all need to practice emotional first aid by Guy Winch

• The power of vulnerability by Brené Brown

• Listening to shame by Brené Brown

• Rethinking Infidelity: a talk for anyone who has ever loved by Esther Perel

• The secret to desire in a long-term relationship by Esther Perel

• The gift and power of emotional courage by Susan David

• How couples can sustain a strong sexual connection for a lifetime by Emily Nagoski

• The truth about unwanted arousal by Emily Nagoski

• STIs aren't a consequence, they're inevitable by Ella Dawson

• How to fix a broken heart by Guy Winch

• Sorry to bother you, but do you say “sorry” too much? by Maja Jovanovic

• How to turn off your work thoughts during your free time by Guy Winch

• Vulnerable Honesty (re: nonviolent communication) by Yoram Mosenzon

Samar (personally) recommends…

Podcasts:

• Bedpost Confessions

  • “How Do I Look?” by Spike Gillespie

  • “Saint Adam of a Sissy” by Adam Maurer

• Me and My Gorgeous Husband

Slam/Spoken Word Poetry:

• Compassion Fatigue by Ebony Stewart

• Mental health Barz by Ebony Stewart

• Explaining My Depression to My Mother by Sabrina Benaim

• The Loneliest Sweet Potato by Sabrina Benaim

• Patron Saint of Manic Depressives by Clementine von Radics

• OCD by Neil Hilborn

• Anxiety: A Ghost Story by Brenna Twohy

• For Teenage Girls by Clementine von Radics

• If I Got Paid for All of My Emotional Labor by Melissa Lozada-Oliva

• For The Rapists Who Called Themselves Feminist by Blythe Baird

• Boomerang Valentine by Andrea Gibson

• Maybe I Need You by Andrea Gibson

More to come…