My goal is to create and hold a safe and non-judgmental space for folx who want to
explore what it means to be their most radically authentic self.
With a professional background enriched by my personal journey as a disabled, queer woman of color, I am deeply committed to holding affirming, non-judgmental spaces for 2SLGBTQIA+, neurodivergent, disabled, BBIPOC, and other marginalized individuals. My practice centers on creating a compassionate environment where vulnerability and authenticity are embraced, allowing clients to explore their identities and desires with courage. I strive to foster growth and healing through a lens of intersectionality and inclusivity.
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“Awkward is my authentic, and I embrace it.”
“Real love accepts people as they are with room for who they may become.”
About Austin Intimate Matters
My name is Samar Poorlakani. My pronouns are she/they and I am a sex-positive psychotherapist.
I run a virtual private practice based in Austin, Texas, specializing in sex therapy—with a particular focus on BDSM/kink and the vast world of consensual non-monogamy (CNM).
(CNM and ENM, or ethical non-monogamy, are both umbrella terms, though some argue for using ENM less often.)
What Does It Mean to Be Sex-Positive?
Sex-positivity can mean many things, but at its core, it’s about embracing sexuality with an emphasis on consent and safer sex practices. Conversations about sex are still considered taboo in many spaces, but I believe in exploring sexual identity, behaviors, and desires without shame or guilt. My goal is to offer a safe, non-judgmental space where you can better understand yourself and your relationships.
As recognized by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, I am a kink and polyamory/CNM knowledgeable professional.
Kink & BDSM-Affirming Therapy
No matter how you describe it—knowledgeable, aware, or friendly—I am a therapist who is open-minded, non-judgmental, and affirming of the BDSM and kinky lifestyle. Whether you’re just beginning to explore kinky fantasies or have been immersed in the community for years, I’m here to empower you, support you, and help you navigate your journey.
Consensual Non-Monogamy & Relationship Support
I also specialize in non-monogamous relationships, including but not limited to:
Polyamory
Open relationships/marriages
Swinging
Triads, quads, and poly families
Relationship anarchy
Solo polyamory
Whether you're exploring non-monogamy for the first time or for years, I can help with communication, setting boundaries, processing emotions (jealousy = the big scary), understanding compersion, and navigating insecurities, neglect, or inadequacy.
Do I Look Familiar?
As a sex-positive therapist, I am active in the same communities I serve. I believe clients benefit from working with a therapist who is knowledgeable, well-versed, and empathetic—someone who understands your world, language, and experiences. That’s why I stay professionally engaged with Austin’s kink and non-monogamous/polyamorous communities.
Who I Work With
I provide therapy for individuals, couples, and relationship structures of all kinds. Whether you’re in crisis and looking for a safe, private space to speak openly, or seeking ongoing support to strengthen your relationships and personal growth, I’m here for you.
“Courage is not the absence of fear.”
Let’s work together to embrace vulnerability, cultivate authenticity, and explore your boundaries in a safe and therapeutic way.
Who is Samar?
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